My girlfriend has long Covid, leaving her with persistent fatigue, brain fog and joint ache – all of which come and go, however over the winter months they turned a cheerful, sporty 33-year-old into a tragic and fearful girl.
I’ve made it my business to be supportive. However, now she seems to be getting higher, I’m noticing a sample: she’s effectively sufficient to exit along with her buddies however not mine, to go to her dad and mom however not mine. She does nothing round the home, however that’s the least of my worries. Either there was a sequence of curious coincidences on her path to recovery, or she is discovering power for the duties she prefers to do. Which would type of be truthful sufficient if she admitted it.
I’d really feel unhealthy bringing this up, however I don’t need us to regress to some extent the place we don’t socialise as a pair. Should I simply look ahead to her to get correctly higher and see if the issue continues?
Anon, through electronic mail
Well, this isn’t far wanting an accusation of malingering, so that you want to be very positive of your info. And on the face of it, I don’t assume you’ve gotten something like sufficient for any definitive conclusions.
You say Covid lowered a ‘cheerful, sporty’ younger girl to a shadow of her former self, and she is just now beginning to get better. I believe it’s comprehensible that she ought to start by selecting up the items which might be best for her. She will really feel extra snug amongst her household and outdated buddies: the additional effort concerned in seeing these you’ve introduced into the connection might be daunting.
You should enable your girlfriend to take this troublesome, unfamiliar path at her personal tempo. At any rate, you’re completely proper not to share even a smidgen of your suspicions along with her. That might undermine her perception that she is making progress, nevertheless gradual, and would upset her, too.
It could also be a cliché, but it surely’s price repeating: time is the good healer.