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‘My partner has dementia but since moving to his son’s he won’t speak to me’ – Coleen Nolan

Dear Coleen

My partner has dementia and, at 80, can not keep in assisted dwelling, so his son has taken him in.

Now my partner doesn’t need to see or discuss to me, though I’ve achieved nothing incorrect.

Both his son and daughter have tried to motive with him, but with no success, though he can’t say why he doesn’t need to see me.

All I’ve achieved is love him and I simply need to assist him get by this. Can you advise?

Coleen says

This could be very upsetting and irritating for you and I fully perceive as my mom suffered from Alzheimer’s.

His behaviour is perhaps a results of his dementia or maybe he doesn’t need you to see him decline and needs to defend you from the consequences of his situation.

With my mom, there have been some days she recognised me and different days when she didn’t know me in any respect or didn’t need to see any of her household, and it’s very onerous to take care of initially.

I received assist from alzheimers.org.uk (0333 150 3456) which additionally has a lot of data on dementia on-line that may allow you to perceive the situation.

It appears like your partner has supportive kids, so I’d maintain the communication going with them to learn the way he’s doing.

Perhaps he’ll have a change of coronary heart and settle for a go to from you or possibly they’d move on a letter.

I’m positive they’ll need to assist if they will. But in addition they have to be delicate to his needs and situation to assist all of them get by this powerful time.

This is tough for you, so be sure to’re being supported by your family and friends, too.

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