When it comes to relationships, there are specific strains you simply don’t cross – like flirting with or getting intimate with one in every of your companion’s buddies or family members.
But what occurs when your vital different encourages you to do exactly that?
This is the uncomfortable scenario one man just lately claimed to have discovered himself in in accordance to a submit shared on Reddit’s Relationship Advice forum.
The unnamed man, 23, asked fellow customers for some assist after his girlfriend of two years instructed he sleep with her an identical twin sister.
The sibling had just lately been by way of a foul break-up and her twin wished to cheer her up and assist enhance her shallowness.
Unsurprisingly, the boyfriend was greatly surprised by the request and at first, he did not know what to say.
In his submit, he wrote: “So I am in this very bizarre situation right now. I’ve been dating this amazing girl for a little over two years and it’s been an absolute blast. She’s attractive, cheerful, kind, supportive. We have a great relationship.
“She additionally occurs to have an an identical twin and they’re fairly shut. They’ve been staying collectively right here since they began college (they go to totally different universities although).
“Naturally, we all hang out together very often and I am pretty comfortable with both of them. I think of her twin as my own sister in a way.
“Anyway, the twin was courting this man for nearly a year. I by no means notably preferred him. Well, seems he was dishonest on her with his ex and they finally broke up (this was six months in the past). Needless to say that the lady was devastated.
“She took it very hard. She became kinda depressed and her self-esteem and self-worth weren’t doing that great. She started not wanting to go out that much. We tried to do our best to drag her out of course to see and meet new people and why not even hook up with someone. I even tried to set her up with one of my friends, who was single at the time and honestly a great guy overall, but no Bueno.”
He continued to say: “My girlfriend always worries about her and tries to help her a little too much, they proceed to fight and then my girlfriend takes it out on me. And we’re not even at the good part yet.
“So yesterday my girlfriend was staying at my place. We have been mendacity down speaking, you know normal stuff. Until she says she needs to ask me for a giant favour. Then proceeds to inform me she’d like me to have intercourse with her sister.
“At first like any sane man I thought that she was joking… Sadly she wasn’t joking at all.
“She in all probability realized I had a WTF look on my face and then proceeded to rationalize it. She advised me that her twin already had a slight crush on me and in the intervening time I am in all probability the one man she really trusts. She mentioned she thinks it is going to significantly enhance her sister’s shallowness and temper.
“She told me she already talked about it with her twin and the twin was ok with it. She reassured me multiple times she won’t get mad about it and she won’t even be present, she could just stay at my place while I go to theirs and do the deed! It will only be one time and I could just pretend her sister was her she said.
“She was virtually begging me, in the meantime I was standing there listening to her with out having the ability to utter a phrase, that was how shocked I was.”
He added: “In the end I said I’ll think about it for a bit and left it at that. I couldn’t f***ing sleep that night. That was yesterday. Today I am kinda avoiding my girlfriend, we texted a bit and thank god she hasn’t mentioned anything about it… yet.
“I am freaking out.
“Also, I am fearing that if I have sex with the twin, not only things might get really awkward between the three of us, but the twin might later get jealous and start sabotaging our relationship.
“I am getting paranoid at this level, however I simply don’t need to wreck this good factor I have with my girlfriend, that is all.”
The Reddit post garnered a lot of attention and even ended up being shared on Twitter, where it received more than 1,800 likes.
A number of people replied, with many thinking it would be a bad idea for him to get involved with the twin sister.
One person said: “Yeah positively don’t do that. It’ll not solely change your relationship with your girlfriend, it will change her relationship with her sister. Forever.”
Another commented: “This is a very unfair and manipulative scenario to put anybody in, and there may be definitely the argument that there’s a very actual however totally different kind of strain on a person in one of these state of affairs than a girl, as there are poisonous components to our tradition that inform a person that he ought to be thrilled by this type of factor.”
Someone else posted: “No. No. Don’t even give it some thought. Second: it CAN NOT be your job to repair your girlfriend’s sister’s shallowness (and it may’t be your gf’s job both, tbh). It’s okay that she’s single. Encourage her to use this time to work on herself.”
The boyfriend later updated his post, confirming that he wasn’t going to do it.
“So I met with my girlfriend earlier immediately and it went fairly good I assume,” he wrote. “Turns out she was feeling like s**t the entire time yesterday, deeply ashamed and terrified. She began crying saying she was regretting all of it day and she now’s 100% positive she would not need to share me with anybody and was terrified that if I mentioned sure then she would not give you the option to do something to cease it since she instructed it.
“I reassured her that I love her, I think she is perfectly normal and I am not intending to leave her or anything like that. Once things calmed down a bit, we talked about what prompted it. Apparently, she and her sister talk an awful lot about sex and relationships and are very open about it, which in turn means they are talking about our relationship and me a lot.
“We are each meeting the sister within the night to clear issues up, hopefully, issues return to the way in which they have been, I imply it isn’t like something unhealthy has truly occurred.”