Changing the nappies can be incredibly frustrating, full of false starts, and often contain a fair amount of glitch.
A mother has shared how she uses it as a time to teach her child about consent – and her video went viral.
Chicago resident Alyssa, who posts at Tickcock @ Once, She shares many things while changing her son’s nappy.
In the video, she described how she tries to make her son feel “part of the process” during the change.
At each stage, Alyssa tells her son what he is doing and checks that he is happy before continuing.
“The goal is to engage her and not like a passive observer manipulating her body,” she explained in the caption.
“Okay, I’m taking off your pants, okay?” The 32-year-old tells his son before removing his trousers, and explains that he is “taking off his diaper”.
In the video, she said: “Young children and infants cannot be agreed to change diapers, but this must be done as a necessary care task.
“So I interact with my son because I change him and explain that he’s doing what I’m doing, so he feels at least part of the process,” she said. , His son would mimic his voice in response.
“The goal is to make her feel more involved and not like a passive observer manipulating her body,” Alyssa continued.
“I want him to build this foundation for the mutual relationship of autonomy and consent of his body later in his life.”
After replacing her, Mummy thanked her feat and told her that she had done a “good job”.
His videos have been viewed more than 110,000 times and like hundreds of comments – many admiring parents sharing their thanks.
One wrote: “I think small things like this are often overlooked, but are very important for the child’s future consent / boundaries. Thank you for teaching these things.”
“At first I felt it was strange, then I remembered that I do the same thing with my elderly residents (less child talk) so that they don’t feel uncomfortable,” another admitted.
One mummy joked: “I’m doing this with my now one-year-old because I like to talk and he was the only one during the day.”
1. Clarify what you are doing
2. Interact with them through conversation, song, question
3. If they object or fight:
a) Explain why you should replace them (they have a grain etc.) and this is an essential task. Do work.
B) Give them a structured choice: “Would you like to change now or in two minutes?” They feel right over their body and the work is definitely done.