Dear Coleen, I’ve been with my boyfriend for greater than two years and we moved in collectively final year.
He’s much more outgoing and sociable than I’m, and has numerous associates, together with just a few women he’s dated in the previous. I just lately went by means of his telephone and found he’s received two of his ex-girlfriends saved into his contacts.
They additionally comply with one another on social media so I used to be actually offended and upset, and confronted him.
He was cross with me for going by means of his telephone, but then he defined that he’s associates with just a few of his exes and that it’s no large deal.
I’ve requested him to delete their numbers and cease following them on social media, but he thinks I’m overreacting. My earlier boyfriend cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend, so I can’t assist pondering that historical past is going to repeat itself.
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My associates additionally say I’m overreacting and that he’s a extremely pretty, form boyfriend.
What do you assume?
I’m not one for insisting anyone does something, so I’m undecided I agree with you over wanting him to delete all
his exes from his telephone and social media accounts.
It doesn’t sound as if he’s carried out something to lift your suspicions, and I believe lots of this is to do with what occurred in your earlier relationship, which I completely get.
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Try to have a peaceful dialog with him the place you clarify what occurred in your previous, and the way it makes you are feeling. People who’ve been cheated on are likely to really feel much less trusting and extra suspicious than those that haven’t, understandably.
If your boyfriend has by no means been cheated on he could not get the way you’re feeling. So moderately than performing like a psycho girlfriend who goes by means of his telephone and accuses him, simply open up and inform him the way you’re feeling and what you’re terrified of.
I’m associates with each my ex-husbands and I’m undecided how I’d really feel if their companions insisted they minimize me off.
Lastly, discover your self-esteem.
It was a horrible factor to occur to you, so maybe have some counselling to assist with that? Otherwise you may danger pushing him away.