When it involves engagement rings, there’s at all times a danger your associate will not just like the one you have picked.
This is why many individuals spend plenty of time researching earlier than splashing the money on a shiny rock.
One man thought he’d achieved a good job of choosing out a ring, after spending 10 years saving up the money to purchase one thing his girlfriend would actually love.
He even spoke to her nearest and dearest concerning the design and stone earlier than committing to a purchase order.
The unnamed man, who lives within the US, took to Reddit to confess he spent $20,000 on the ring (slightly below £15,000), which featured a lab-grown diamond as an alternative of a pure one, as they’re virtually indistinguishable and he was capable of get a much bigger stone for his money.
He explains in an nameless submit on the Am I The A**gap discussion board that the proposal went very well and she or he mentioned sure.
His fiancée initially appeared overjoyed along with her ring, but issues turned bitter after she began asking questions.
“She asked me how much I had spent on her ring. I told her that I had spent about $20,000 on it that I had been squirrelling away for the last 10 years.
“She was initially floored that I had spent a lot but later grew to become suspicious that I had managed to get such a big stone (3.6 carats.) for the worth, and requested to see the diamond certificates I obtained with the ring. I, in fact, confirmed it to her (I assumed she was frightened I had been duped into shopping for a pretend) and when she noticed it was lab-grown she obtained upset that I hadn’t purchased her a ‘actual’ diamond.
“This reaction stunned me for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I had always been open in my distaste for the natural diamond industry, and secondly because I had employed the assistance of her friends and mother and everyone agreed that she wouldn’t care if the diamond was lab-grown.”
He continues to say how he has spent the final week explaining to his associate how lab-grown diamonds are higher for the surroundings and higher worth for money.
“I wanted to get her the most beautiful ring possible and lab-grown diamonds are in every way real diamonds and that they are also indistinguishable from natural ones unless you look at their certificate.
“I’ve additionally identified that she had no clue and would have by no means identified if I hadn’t informed her the worth of her ring. But she insists that she will inform a distinction and it’s simply not the identical.”
His fiancée has since asked if they could swap the stone for a natural diamond of the same value, much to the man’s disappointment.
He added: “I spent months looking for the proper ring for her and likewise, although worth was the most important purpose for me, the concept of doubtless getting a blood diamond actually does sicken me. So I mentioned no, and mentioned if she needed to offer the ring again and finish our relationship, that’s high quality, but I’d not alternate it.
“She called me an a**hole and went to stay the night with her parents. Since then I have received multiple texts from her friends telling me to just acquiesce and exchange the ring (and, ultimately, I will if it means saving the relationship) but I just feel like this is something worth being firm on.”
Hundreds of individuals have since responded to the Reddit submit, sharing their ideas on the scenario.
One individual mentioned: “This is a pretty good sign of how the actual wedding and marriage will go in my opinion. Not the a**hole. You’re trying to look out for the world, if a real stone was that important to her, she probably would’ve brought up being against/wanting a lab-created diamond some point in your relationship. She’s being picky and should’ve been happy about the ring, which btw, sounds gorgeous.”
Another replied: “I never once thought of asking my hubby how much he spent on my ring. I absolutely loved the ring! But I loved the fact that he chose it more. The size didn’t matter. The setting didn’t matter. The price didn’t matter.”
A 3rd wrote: “NTA You spent $20,000 on a ring and she isn’t happy? I think you have bigger fish to fry. What’s going to be enough for her?”
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