‘I found videos of my boyfriend having sex with other women – he never sleeps with me’ – Coleen Nolan

The Mirror’s agony aunt Coleen Nolan helps a reader who’s questioning if she will get previous this betrayal after she found videos of him having sex with other women

‘I found my boyfriend has been having sex with other folks’ (stock picture)

Dear Coleen

I found my boyfriend has been having sex with other folks after discovering videos of him with a number of women.

At the time, our relationship was going by a tough patch and quite a bit was occurring. He wouldn’t have sex with me however simply stated he wasn’t in the appropriate body of thoughts for it.

We’ve been making an attempt to work by this collectively since I found out concerning the videos, but it surely hurts so badly, particularly the truth that he nonetheless can’t provoke sex.

I’m heartbroken and confused, however would nonetheless wish to make the connection work. Is it attainable?

Coleen says

If it’ll work, it’s not going to occur in a single day. He has to work very onerous at convincing you. He additionally has to speak about why it occurred and why your relationship ended up struggling within the first place.

You would possibly each should take duty for the connection going by a tough patch. Of course that doesn’t excuse him sleeping with other women.

Look, being fully trustworthy, you won’t be capable of recover from it. You can’t be in a scenario the place each time you have got a fall-out (as a result of you should have disagreements and challenges sooner or later), he thinks it’s OK to run off and sleep with other women – and, um, video it.

I perceive you being devastated, but it surely all comes all the way down to speaking and also you deciding over time if you happen to might be with somebody who reacted in that means.

You would possibly need assistance to work by it with a relationship counsellor. Visit

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