Dear Richard: ‘My sons aren’t the consolation I hoped for in widowhood

Dear Richard,

After I lost my husband, I moved to be close to my two sons. The bother is they’re busy with their very own lives, and I barely see them.

I have at all times needed to dwell by the sea and I really feel I am nonetheless younger sufficient to make the transfer. I am conscious that I can be lonely there, not less than at first, however then I have been lonely right here. Then once more, in due course I hope that there will probably be grandchildren and I don’t need to miss out on that. I really feel torn. What do you suppose I ought to do – or somewhat, what’s the finest strategy to set the two choices in entrance of me as precisely as I can?

– Doreen, Essex

Dear Doreen,

A I haven’t any hesitation in advising you on this. Move to the sea. As quickly as you presumably can.

What’s the level in staying the place you might be? You could also be bodily near your sons however emotionally they’re as far-off as they’d be in the event you lived in Rome. So comply with your dream and answer the ocean’s name.

You ask about evaluating choices. Well, right here’s a thought. If and when grandchildren arrive, a granny with a house by the seaside will probably be a really enticing prospect. I communicate from expertise. My spouse and I spend quite a lot of time at our dwelling in Cornwall, two minutes’ stroll from a stunning little seaside. We see much more of our Manchester-based granddaughters there than we do at our London dwelling (which now we have to maintain on due to our work commitments). The sea is a superb siren name to younger households. And an ideal alternative to actually calm down – in addition to have some uninterrupted high quality time collectively.

In truth, in the event you make your transfer I suppose you might properly see your sons and their rising brood way more usually down by the shoreline than you at the moment do in suburbia.

Go for it, Doreen! And ship me a postcard!

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